With my children, I am emulating a policy used in my own family growing up. It was about never keeping secrets. I grew up in a home where we talked about everything, all the time. After growing up and having my own children, I’ve realized why.
Secrets are Trouble
For
the most part secrets are trouble and create problems where there may not have been any. It’s like building a
porch without support beams. It may hold for a while, but eventually, something
is bound to break. Secrets lead to lying, which leads to doing things behind
parent’s backs, and hiding those actions. If they can hide small things from
us, surely they have the capacity to hide bigger and bigger things, until
finally they are teenagers and we have no idea who they are, what their
opinions are and they are drifting farther and farther away from us.