Why We Homeschool

When my oldest started PreK I had considered homeschooling. But I was still birthing babies, and was in no frame of mind (or emotion) to homeschool. We considered it again and again until 2011. At that time, I had 4 school age kids and 1 toddler. It was a difficult decision because there was no pressing reason to change gears. There wasn’t anything traumatic happening at their public school. No shootings, no bullying, the teachers were decent and they were getting good grades.
I didn’t really HAVE to homeschool and as the years go by, my reasons grow and change. (I think they are getting better.)
I am documenting our reasons as they change and will update this post at the end of each school year.

2011

The Only Real Reason: Strangers are raising my kids
Everything was fine, yet there was something awry.
Every time the four older kids got off the bus in the afternoon, my home would explode. I’m not talking about messes, I’m talking about attitudes, sassiness and meanness. The more I tried to “retrain” the behaviors they were learning from their friends in public school, the more it felt like I was swimming uphill.
The major reason I decided to homeschool, was because they were becoming less “children of Kevin and Heather Trim” and more “children of public school children.” They were acting like someone else’s kids. Strangers. I couldn’t keep up with all the unacceptable behaviors they were learning from their friends. Because they were with those kids more than they were with me. I did the math… it’s true!! I’m just talking the conscious hours: 8.5 hours in public school, 4 hours at home during the weekdays. Being home on the weekends barely balances out the time and barely gave me enough time to pour love, joy, peace, patience, kindness into them.
School teachers deserve an award after every completed school year. They do their best to teach and mother all the children in their classes. I have school teachers in my family. I know the amount of effort they put into their jobs, into these children that are not even their own. (150% without overtime!) There is one teacher for every 20 students (sometimes more.) So, in my opinion, it isn’t the teachers that were the problem for my kids, it was that public school children are raising each other.
So the question I was faced was… do I want to continue to allow other people’s children to raise my kids or do I want to bring them home full time and do it myself. Some of them were decent enough kids. Some went to church. Some told the truth. Children are mirrors, they mimic the people they are around the most. And I want ME and my husband to be the one they duplicate.
I’m pretty confident in my parenting and I finally made the decision to homeschool in the spring of 2011 and started them that August.
(Secondary reason: My husband wanted a “say” in what they were learning. This wasn’t one of my concerns at the time. But it’s worth saying because he was right.)

2012

After our first full year of homeschooling I took a good look at all I had accomplished with my children. We are a stronger family. A more loving family too. I retrained some of those ugly behaviors and it stuck. I am teaching them to get along with each other and sometimes how to fight with each other without hurting each other. They are becoming quality people because I can deal with bad behaviors AS THEY HAPPEN not just after they get off the bus.
I can keep up with everything they learn. They are learning to be better people, learning about God on a daily basis, learning about history from a biblical point of view.
I am also learning. I am learning how to be a better mom every day, learning about each of their interests down to the minute detail, learning that this was a part of God’s plan for me all along whether I started them in kindergarten or now.
This year, I have set some new goals and homeschooling is how I plan to carry them out. It all branches off my original reason for homeschooling: I want to raise my children.
Reason #1: I want to raise my children with an intimate, supernatural relationship with God and hear His totally-awesome voice first in everything. Not to be just “religious” people, but people who live and breathe in Jesus’ image.
Reason #2: I want to raise my children to be life learners, teachable and make right decisions about what they believe, like, want and need, and understand why.

2013


At the conclusion of our second year homeschooling, I’m so proud of who my children are, not just of who they are becoming. But right now, I believe I have made such a great decision that has altered the course of their personal histories.
My reasons still remain the same as from 2012 with a few additions. If you made a layered cake and each of those reasons is a layer, I would add one more layer:
Reason #3: I want to raise my girls to become good women and my son to be a good man with all the responsibilities that go with them. And to learn who they are and what they want out of life. (Few figure this out before they are 30.)
Some parents could probably achieve the same things with their children whether they public schooled or homeschooled. I commend anyone who can. After all, I went to public school and survived. But I know that homeschooling is the best way for me to be an effective parent. Using 100% of their time in training at my side. Not to control them, not out of fear, not to hinder them. But to give them the best chance to mature and be confident in who they are.

It is always interesting to hear about why people homeschool. Do you homeschool? If so, why? Share in the comments.

Happy Homeschooling!